179534_10151143107937774_206565746_nI’m far cry from anything divine, but I continually strive to be better today than I was yesterday. Treating others the way I like to be treated. Continually developing in matters of the heart and mind.

– What’s the most exciting thing you’ve ever done?

– What is the best thing you have ever done to someone else and what is the best thing someone done for you?

– What would you consider to be your greatest accomplishment?

– What are your biggest fears?

– What are your biggest regrets?

– What are your roadblocks?

– What would you love to change about yourself?

– What would you never change about yourself?

– What are you passionate about?

– What makes you truly happy in life?

– If you didn’t have to work, what your life would be like?

– If you were to finish this sentence, The purpose of my life is to… How would you finish it?

Challenging? You bet! These are the things that fascinate and interest me. “The highest reward for man’s dedication to excellence is not what he gets from it, but what he becomes through it”…

And here a few more ….

– Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

– Would you like to be famous? In what way?

– Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

– What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

– When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

– If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

– Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

– Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

– For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

– If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

– Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

– If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

– If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

– Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

– What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

– What do you value most in a friendship?

– What is your most treasured memory?

– What is your most terrible memory?

– If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

– What does friendship mean to you?

– What roles do love and affection play in your life?

– Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

– How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

– How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

– Make three true “we” statements each. For instance “We are both in this room feeling…”

– Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

– If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

– Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

– Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

– When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

– Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

– What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

– If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

– Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

– Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

– Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

I also used a few deliciously probing variants on the original questions, including these from a similar study:

– If you could choose the sex and physical appearance of your soon-to-be-born child, would you do it?

– Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth?

– While on a trip to another city, your spouse (or lover) meets and spends a night w/ an exciting stranger. Given they will never meet again, and you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it?

Enjoy the jorney of self discovery 🙂


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